Have you ever seen that show Hoarders? It's a show where they go into people's homes to help them clear out all the clutter.

How do you know when to “make” things happen and when to “let” things happen? Most leaders and entrepreneurs move through life feeling rushed and pressured, striving to ‘make it happen.’ They assume if they don’t push and strive, they won’t accomplish their goals. This is often referred to as drive.

What do dating, running a business, a sales conversation and creative problem solving all have in common? We do better in all of these situations when our minds are freer, and we are more at ease in ourselves.

Learning to hesitate less and engage more has made a HUGE difference in my work and in my life.

It may sound simple, but I didn’t realize all the ways I was stopping myself.